Monday, June 28, 2010

Happy 3rd Birthday My Highly Sensitive Faith

New Addition:
I'm sure I wanted to write more when I initially wrote this post and that is why I haven't published it since June 28th. But, now re-reading it, I think it's great as is. The funny thing is so much has changed in the past month and I'll need to work to get us back to a more pleasant environment.

Original Post:

I can't believe I haven't posted a blog since February. The reason behind the procrastination of blogging is like I've said in my previous post of writing coming easier when I'm stress than when things are going well. Things have been great!

My G.E.R.D. is completely gone. We've all made lots of changes. Not to say that I've eliminated all of my stresses, but I'm not better equipped to handle it. I was seeing my therapist every other week until about a month ago. I was also participating in a discussion group for gifted children. It's led my Mika Gustavson. We also totally gave up with the sleeping arrangement and Faith is in the bed with me and my husband is in her room. It's all about just getting good sleep.

My state of mind has completely affect how Faith handles things. She has been incredible. I'm sure maturity is starting to be a factor as well. However, we have been working on a lot of different strategies that I've learn from my therapist and the discussion group. I've helped her to vocalize more with her feelings. We've also been identifying what we're feeling and what is the best method to deal with it. I've also stop over reacting. That one a big one. She used to just get wrapped up in my anxiety and then it became a vicious cycle, with each of us feeding of the other. We've also made time for cuddle time in the morning, right when she wakes up, and at night, right before she goes to sleep. We just lay in bed cuddling with each other and talking about the previous day or what we're going to do for the day. I saw a huge difference in her attitude when I have to take care of business, when I took the time out to give her uninterrupted quality time. This has help tremendously with the clinginess. She is also getting more mature and being able to play on her own, which helps tremendously for both of us.

My husband and I are contemplating about having a child because it's finally getting so much easier with Faith. She turned three yesterday on June 27th. She is growing up so fast and has matured so much from when I started this blog. She is still highly sensitive, but less so in the emotional outburst and more in her understanding and sensing others pain and emotions. I know I'm her mom and I'm a little bias, but she never cease to amaze me. She is so wise beyond her years some time that I do truly forget she is three. Sometimes I know I expect too much from her and I have to remind myself that she is still so young. It's easy to forget her age if you just sit and have a conversation with her. She is able to hold a true conversation with comments, suggestions, humor, and thoughtfulness.